We, at Baby Can Travel, have had to deal with our fair share of tantrums while travelling. We decided to go to the experts to get some parenting tips!
This guest post was written by Brenda McSween, the owner at Parenting Foundations.
Travelling with young children is an amazing opportunity to create so many memories with your children. The most memorable memories for you may be when your child is throwing himself/herself down on the floor in the airport or screaming bloody murder of the plane! Unfortunately these things do happen!
Toddlers are going through some major developmental changes, which can contribute to their increased tantrums. At this stage of development our little ones have discovered that they can do things themselves. They have gone from having things done for them to trying to figure out how to do things themselves. During this learning period, children will often throw a number of tantrums out of frustration, exhaustion, hunger, worrying about what is happening next, etc.
So how can you deal with these behaviours while you are travelling?
There are basically two types of strategies that you can use. These strategies can be broken down into 2 different types of reactions. The reactions are as follows:
1. Proactive Reactions:
A proactive reaction is when you consciously choose to do things that may help with your child’s feelings that can stop your child’s need to tantrum to express his/her feelings.
Some examples of Proactive Reactions are:
- Having snacks ready at any given moment. “Hangry” is a real thing.
- Giving your child reminders of what is happening next. Warnings of when they will have to transfer on to the plane. A warning before preparing for take off and landing so the seat is in the
- Play for a minimum of 10 minutes with your child. This is child led play! This can happen on the plane, in the airport, on the bus, in a vehicle, and so on. The child led play adds to your
child’s feeling of connection with you. This simple act has a powerful impact on your child’s day.
- This is one example of how to increase your child’s connection with you.
- Here is a post that explains this in a bit more detail. Stop, Drop, and Connect
2. Reactive Reactions:
A reactive reaction is what you do after the tantrum has occurred or while it is in progress.
Some examples of Reactive Reactions are:
- Distraction is a common tactic used. There is a time and a place to use this technique. In the middle of a crowded area or in an unsafe place like the water or in the street. With distraction
you may find that your child has a few more tantrums before he/she seems ready to move on. I used to carry a few toys in my purse or backpack that I could pull out and use in these moments. If
you are willing a movie or tv show can be a great distraction on the plane.
- Timeouts. Giving your child a few minutes on his/her own to calm down and process the moment. I personally find that timeouts are not always productive when we are in a strange place. An
alternative is do you time in which is where you go with your child when he/she is taking a break away from the activity where the tantrum occurred.
- Letting the tantrum happen and then offering comfort when it is done. This can be referred to as offering connection. Children will often tantrum when they feel that their connection with a loved one has been effected. Find more information in the Stop, Drop, and Connect post.
As with all things related to children, you will find that some strategies work really well for one child and not well for another children. With time and patience you will discover what works best for your child. I wish you all the best travelling with your child!
This guest post was written by Brenda McSween. Brenda is the proud mother and stepmother to 3 amazing boys who are 6, 18 and 22 years of age. Brenda began Parenting Foundations in 2013 after deciding it was time to pursue her passion of helping others become the parent they want to be. Brenda has a Bachelor of Child Studies, Certification of Completion of a Sleep Training program and over 20 years of experience working with Children and Families.
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If you would to discuss this topic further, please feel free to comment on this post or send Brenda a quick message through her website www.parentingfoundations.net.
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